If you are familiar with writer Demetria Lucas' journey from freelance writer (Essence, The Source and her own blog/brand www.A Belle in Brooklyn.com
) to accomplished author/media personality/relationship coach, one can't help but be inspired. Especially if you live and work in New York City.
This year, the newly-minted reality TV star (check her out January 5th on Bravo TV's new reality series "Blood, Sweat and Heels") took her knack for giving good advice and created a candid www.Askfm.com
page where she answers your craziest questions on love, family, friendships and work-related matters. I can't front, I'm addicted! Keep up the good work Belle! (Still scrolling each week to see if you answered my question, LOL
On a more serious note, I can recall when I first learned of Demetria Lucas the writer. I remember feeling proud when I peeped that her feature on Hip-Hop and prison, ("What They Forgot to Tell You") and my "Ear to the Street" column articles were both published in the same March 2007 issue of The Source magazine! I was excited to have reached my goal of being published in the same magazine I grew up collecting and also happy to see another burgeoning female writer come to New York City and make her mark.
Maybe it was the confidence Demetria Lucas emitted via her mini-bio blurb or just the fact that I was simply happy to see another out-of-town girl winning, but I knew she was a special writer and I was going to read/see her name in an editorial form again soon. Who knew, maybe she'd be the next editor I would be pitching to between my 9-to-5 gig and writing pursuits? While we never crossed paths and my writing slowed down (not for long though!), I am still inspired and motivated by much of Demetria Lucas' professional and personal journey.
I can understand the woes she endured during her grind to establish a respected freelance writing career and even her simple quest to survive and thrive in the Big Apple, no easy feats for anyone, especially an out-of-towner. Salute to her seventh year as a respected blogger and new marriage engagement!
In short, while many laud Ms. Lucas for her successes (myself included), no one more than I can appreciate Belle's grind more than her accomplishments, considering her story embodies why I created the OutofTowngirl.com blogsite.
Her "A Belle in Brooklyn" blog is many things: an inspiration to stay motivated to succeed, a reminder that nothing worth having is ever achieved without hard work and sacrifice and a testament that nothing is guaranteed in life, even if you do everything the "right" way. The power in her blog for me is not necessarily the accolades that she has received (book deals, branding success) but more importantly, the posts on how she overcame the obstacles she faced to become the successful woman we see today.
I can relate to her tales about her career climb and the quest to find herself in a city where you dine on ambition for breakfast and come dinner-time, you might be eating humble pie with a helping of disappointment, all on the same day. Where sometimes no matter how hard you grind, patience and persistence (and a steady paycheck from a job you may not love) can be your most important (and only) tools to "making it" in New York City.
Ms. Lucas also reminds us that New York can be a magical place. One where impromptu nights in upscale venues with the city's hottest taste-makers can make you forget your troubles and sometimes lead to the right professional/personal connection that can change your life in a New York minute. Love her or hate her, (I hope you love her), Lucas gives hope and reminds you of the possibilities. And isn't that what brought you here in the first place? More importantly, it is why we stay and endure.
PS: Stay tuned for Demetria's new book "Don't Waste Your Pretty: The Go-to Guide for Making Smarter Decisions in Life and Love" ( just in time for reinventing yourself for 2014!) And don't forget to add her first book "A Belle in Brooklyn" to your collection.
Candid, honest advice for ambitious ladies who want to live and love their best NYC life-just like we preach here at www.OutofTowngirl.com!